What makes relationships work and how can they be improved?
I consider myself a lucky, happily married woman, but I was also curious to know if there was anything my husband and I were missing out on when it came to maintaining a healthy relationship.
(And by the way, if you’re single, please don’t mope! Use Valentine’s Day to get together with your single friends and have a fun night together. That’s still spending quality time with people you love, which is what Valentine’s Day is all about.)
I turned to Kerreen Chau, M.A. and licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) here in San Clemente for answers.
Common Relationship Complaints
One of the main reasons couples seek counseling is because of communication issues. Couples often talk about living parallel lives, meaning each has his or her own, separate agenda each day, Chau said. They may share the same bed, but feel they don’t share the same lives.
Another reoccurring lament Chau hears from many veteran married couples is a sense of isolation. They say there’s no exact problem, per say, it’s just that they’re not connecting, and each partner feels alone.
So how can couples avoid these scenarios? Continue reading …